Feel Your Feelings, They're There For A Reason.

A year or two ago I started a trial nutritional coaching program. It did not go well. As I got into the second and third call with this coach I began to realize how fraught this whole issue of food still was for me. Which is great knowledge to have. It is always valuable to know where your hidden stress is so you can deal with it. And of course I know the fastest way to deal with an issue is with tapping. In our day to day we have gotten adept at NOT feeling our feelings and we can suffer the consequences of negative feelings festering in quiet. But spending some time delving deep into this issue was eye opening and allowed me to tap on some deep hurt I thought I was over.

But that's not why the program did not go well. During one of our conversations I expressed the feeling that I did not think people would respect or give me credence unless I lost weight. Bless her heart, in trying to help she said,"You shouldn't feel that way! Why, look at coach and speaker  _____, she's quite overweight but very respected."

"You shouldn't feel that way."

Those words hang like a marquee in my memory.

Why shouldn't I feel that way? My history, my choices and reactions to experiences I've had, the culture I perceive I live in, the family I grew up in, the steady drumbeat: lose weight lose weight lose weight; the voices and opinions I heard everyday growing up; the taunts, the little and big slights flung my way; the comments about my body that everyone seemed to feel free to throw at me. Of course I feel this way.

Because I am me. These feeling are a road map of my history. Would I like to feel differently (and for the record, today I do), yes; that was part of the reason for trying this coach out. Improving my health and the health of others through tapping is my personal and professional goal. And I know other tools are helpful and necessary as well.

But the feelings (which are separate from the emotional "label" our brain uses to interpret the sensations coming from the body) are key to unraveling all those places where we are stuck in an old way of thinking; those feelings reflect the wounds that are still not healed. Where the child in us is still hurt and confused. Where we have not brought our loving kindness yet.

We can not 'not feel that way' to health. We must feel those sensations to unravel the tapestry all those strings have made. Then we can weave a new picture that reflects how we would like to feel. We can turn those angry reds into sunrise glories; those sad blues into sunnier skies; convert those lightning bolts into energy for healing and transformation.

So, please FEEL THAT WAY! But don't stop there. Whatever tools you use to transmute your lower emotional states to higher vibrations of calm, love and enthusiasm - do so. EFT is a powerful, rapid, safe and gentle way to do that. If you are in a big storm of emotions I can help you row that boat.

Somethings are best tackled with a friend or guide. I'd be happy to help.

you can contact me through my website at: CalmHealthEase.com