A year or two ago I started a trial
nutritional coaching program. It did not go well. As I got into the
second and third call with this coach I began to realize how fraught
this whole issue of food still was for me. Which is great knowledge
to have. It is always valuable to know where your hidden stress is
so you can deal with it. And of course I know the fastest way to
deal with an issue is with tapping. In our day to day we have gotten
adept at NOT feeling our feelings and we can suffer the consequences
of negative feelings festering in quiet. But spending some time
delving deep into this issue was eye opening and allowed me to tap on
some deep hurt I thought I was over.
But that's not why the program did not
go well. During one of our conversations I expressed the feeling
that I did not think people would respect or give me credence unless
I lost weight. Bless her heart, in trying to help she said,"You
shouldn't feel that way! Why, look at coach and speaker _____, she's
quite overweight but very respected."
"You shouldn't feel that
way."
Those words hang like a marquee in my memory.
Why shouldn't I feel that way? My
history, my choices and reactions to experiences I've had, the
culture I perceive I live in, the family I grew up in, the steady
drumbeat: lose weight lose weight lose weight; the voices and
opinions I heard everyday growing up; the taunts, the little and big
slights flung my way; the comments about my body that everyone
seemed to feel free to throw at me. Of course I feel
this way.
Because I am me. These feeling are a
road map of my history. Would I like to feel differently (and for
the record, today I do), yes; that was part of the reason for trying
this coach out. Improving my health and the health of others through
tapping is my personal and professional goal. And I know other tools
are helpful and necessary as well.
But the feelings (which are separate
from the emotional "label" our brain uses to interpret the
sensations coming from the body) are key to unraveling all those
places where we are stuck in an old way of thinking; those feelings reflect
the wounds that are still not healed. Where the child in us is still
hurt and confused. Where we have not brought our loving kindness
yet.
We can not 'not feel that way' to
health. We must feel those sensations to unravel the tapestry
all those strings have made. Then we can weave a new picture that
reflects how we would like to feel. We can turn those angry reds
into sunrise glories; those sad blues into sunnier skies; convert
those lightning bolts into energy for healing and transformation.
So, please FEEL THAT WAY! But don't
stop there. Whatever tools you use to transmute your lower emotional
states to higher vibrations of calm, love and enthusiasm - do so.
EFT is a powerful, rapid, safe and gentle way to do that. If you are
in a big storm of emotions I can help you row that boat.
Somethings are best tackled with a
friend or guide. I'd be happy to help.
you can contact me through my website at: CalmHealthEase.com
