Did You Hear That Growing up?
For many of us that was the sign that someone thought we were "getting too big for our britches" or in some way thinking too highly of ourselves. What it really meant was we were acting out of the "norm" our family, friends or teachers had established for us. It was a way to make us behave or think in a way that would make them comfortable.But it is a serious question to ponder. Really, who do you think you are? Are you generous, kind, funny? Are you thoughtful, brash, reckless, cautious? Are you bold, timid, well meaning? Are you worthy of that great job, the love of your life. Are you good enough to have what you desire? Do things come to you easily or are they ever elusive?
I've said this before. You believe you have "beliefs." What you really have is set of brain habits. Over the course of your life you have created an identity comprised of many thoughts and beliefs. Every thought creates a corresponding sensation in your body. These are created by a complex recipe of hormones that tell you what you are 'feeling' in response to any thought.
EFT is an awesome tool to discover what you really feel. By looking at what is stressing you out, whether it be your health, past or present, some thought that's stuck in your head, a feeling of overwhelm, fatigue or any number of other things, we can relieve the immediate stress with tapping. And to get longer lasting, permanent results, we go find the root of the issue and clear it out too.
And then it's gone! It's like clearing a drain. Once the stuck energy is gone, it doesn't crawl back up the pipe to bother you again. That's kind of an kind of icky analogy, but pretty vivid I think.
Let's clear that stuff out!
The Cart Before the Horse
Have you noticed in life that when you achieve the wisdom from an experience but wish you had had that wisdom way back when, when you could have really used it?
Facebook is like that, sort of. It's like having a backwards conversation. So in case you missed it here is a run down of recent posts, relating to my comments above, but in an order that makes more sense!
Look at these pictures and tell me if you see yourself in one of them. How do you know? Probably you had a feeling in your body that means "familiar" or "safe" to you. We all have images of ourselves in our conscious and unconscious minds. And at the root of social peace lies the ability to see "ourselves" in others. When you can consciously expand your image of your self with tapping, by letting go of stress and trauma, you are stepping onto the path of making peace in your world and therefor world peace. Are you called?
I invite you take a census of what you think are your qualities, good and bad. Tomorrow we'll do something with that list. Don't get extreme, but are there 5 things you're great at? Are there 5 things you might like to change? What do you KNOW to be true of yourself?
OK, you have your list from yesterday? (post of 2/20) Now, here's the question. Is it really true? There are many things we believe about ourselves that amount to little more than programming. Much of which has it's source so far back that we don't even know why we feel that way, so we put it into the category of "that's just how I am". Where it sits unquestioned for decades, influencing our choices and our life direction. What if you could change the story of your life? What if you could change your brain, and pick another direction? Here's the not-so-secret secret. You can. And tapping is the fastest way I know of to do that.
Great. Now you've decided to try tapping and you want to get started. Good deal.
But you feel your problems are with other people not yourself. Common feelings.
How do we address that? We start with YOU of course. You are the only one
you have control over anyway, ever. But when YOU change, the people
around you have to change too. Remember the pictures from a
couple of days ago? People are accustomed to relating to their
"picture" of you.When you change the way you show up, they have
to respond differently too. If you start showing up stronger
and more calm, what might the reactions be in your environment?
When you say to yourself, "that's just how I am" do you know, or wonder, why? You may well know! Examples might be "I'm fearful of height because I fell off a ladder when I was 6." Until I was 22 I was terrified of bees because I had been stung twice (at the same time!) when I was around 5. Maybe you can trace your fear of speaking to the fact that every time you spoke up at home someone was sure to tell you to shut up because you were stupid. All these experiences add up to "How we are". You are probably also kind, or generous; intelligent, caring, resourceful, charming or many other wonderful qualities. But it's those negative qualities that seem to preoccupy our minds. And they are the ones that may be holding you back in key areas of your life, like your health.
When you contemplate what makes you YOU, do some of your qualities confuse you? Are you afraid of things and don't know why? Timid of certain situations for no apparent reason? From the moment you are born your nervous system begins coding your experiences into two categories. Roughly speaking, good and bad. This is happening long before you are able to form memories. But your amygdala is tasked from moment one with keeping you safe. Did the color red show up at the same time a pain stimulus was delivered? Amygdala might code in "color red=pain=might be dangerous". That sense of unease, especially if oft repeated, codes for discomfort around the color red. so you might not like red shirts, or cars, or be uncomfortable around a really nice person because they have red hair or wear a lot of red clothes. And you don't know why, "I just don't" ! This may be an innocent example. but in certain situations this "coding" that makes you "be you" can be a really big stumbling block. Tapping can change that!
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Be Well.
